Oftentimes
when people are in the wrong relationships, they’ll constantly make
excuses to themselves as to why they shouldn’t leave. “But I love him” …
“We’ve been dating for so long” … “I feel comfortable with him” … “He
will change eventually” …
If you find yourself constantly making excuses like these, get out! Now! The sooner
you stop making excuses, start being honest with yourself, and face reality, the sooner you’ll move forward and be well on your way to finding the right relationship.
If you find yourself constantly making excuses like these, get out! Now! The sooner
you stop making excuses, start being honest with yourself, and face reality, the sooner you’ll move forward and be well on your way to finding the right relationship.
1. Don’t ever settle.
You’ve been
in countless relationships and quite frankly, you’re tired of it, so you
decide to just stay with the one you’re in. But it doesn’t matter how
many people you’ve been with, because it could take a million more
before you find the right person. You deserve the best. You deserve
someone who loves you for who you are, who praises you on your best
days, and makes you smile on your worst. You’re beautiful inside and out
and you need to be with someone who feels lucky to have you.
2. Don’t stay just because you don’t want to be alone.
This is the worst possible thing you can
do. If you are settling for an unhealthy relationship just to have
someone to talk to every day, you’re missing out on finding “the one.”
You don’t need a boyfriend or a girlfriend to keep you company; that’s
what friends are for. Go out to bars, join a book club, take cooking
classes. Go out and have fun. You’d be surprised how many new friends
you could meet. And when you think about it, what’s so terrible about
spending some quality time with probably the only person in the world
who you actually can agree with 100 percent of the time? Plus, the
better you get to know yourself, the easier it’ll be for you to figure
out what you want and need in a relationship.
3. Don’t stay just because you feel “comfortable.”
You’ve been in a relationship for several
years and it’s just what you’re “used to,” but “familiar” doesn’t
necessarily mean “good.” Don’t be with someone just because it’s
“convenient.” Many people that are in long-term relationships feel that
they have spent so much time and energy into getting to know that person
that they don’t feel like doing it all over again with someone else.
This isn’t a good reason to stay with someone and besides, getting to
know someone new can be fun!
4. Some people never change.
You’ve
stayed with the same person for so long, hoping they would eventually
change into the person you want them to be — it’s not happening. So
instead of waiting on someone to change, why not spend that time trying
to find someone who’s already exactly the type of person you want?
5. Abuse of all forms should never be tolerated.
Many people don’t realize that verbal
attack is also considered abuse, and most of the time (and as I’ve
already mentioned) those people will never change. Real love isn’t
degrading or hurtful. Your boyfriend or girlfriend should comfort you
and make you smile, not pierce your heart. Find someone who will shower
you with love, affection and kind words. And if someone ever lays a
finger on you, get out immediately! There is absolutely no reason in the
world as to why a man or a woman should ever hit you.
6. Don’t make excuses for your significant other.
If you find yourself defending their
heartless actions, you should probably stop and admit that the way they
treat you is wrong. Some people lie or defend their partner to their
family and friends because they don’t want them to sound as bad as they
are. If you start making excuses like, “Oh he didn’t mean it, he just
had a long day,” or “He is just stressed out from work, I know he really
loves me,” then you should realize that you’re in a bad relationship
and get out ASAP.
7. You have to love yourself and be content with your life before you can love someone else.
It’s best to work out personal issues,
like insecurities or fear of commitment, before getting into a
relationship. Before settling down, you must first be at peace with your
life, your personality and yourself. After all, how are you supposed to
make someone else happy if you can’t even make yourself happy?
In short: Get Mr./Mrs. Wrong out of your
life. Don’t give up, and more importantly, don’t feel let down. It’s a
big world we live in and the right person is out there for you. Just
make sure not to miss out on “the one” because you were with “the wrong
one.”
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