Being in a relationship doesn't just require loving each other. Both partners are expected to support and help each other grow as a couple and as individuals. This is a responsibility for both the man and the woman. Today, we will look at four (easy) ways ladies can help their partners become better.
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1. Set Him Up to Win.
Think
of your early dates as a chance to leave clues about your expectations
with a little technique called pre-framing. Say: "My friend gets annoyed
because her boyfriend never opens the car door for her. It's a shame
when guys don't do those little things." He may not have even considered
opening the car door, and all of a sudden, it's priority number one.
2. Avoid Labels.
If
you label someone lazy or a liar, he'll feel like that for a long time.
Worse, guys lose motivation to change when they feel like your
perception of them is set in rocks. Give him space to still win with
words like, "When you didn't come to dinner with my parents, it felt
selfish, and I know that's not who you are. It would mean a lot to me
for us to spend time with them the next time."
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3. Make It About Your Joy. Yet, Not His Failure.
He's
more of a slob than you? Instead of condemning, state your standards:
"I need to live in a place that's clean. I respect that it's not a big
deal to you, but it's important to me to enjoy my home." This removes
ego. He'll be happier to please you than admit he's wrong.
4. Reinforce His Best Moments.
When
he does something even a tiny bit right, give him love and attention
for it. He gives you a small surprise? Tell him, "It's so sexy to have a
man who takes care of me the way you do." Anything that a man hears
that's sexy is gold to him.
(Warning: Do not use this power for evil!)
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