During the
last week, a friend and I got talking about many things including women, of
course. I asked him how his girlfriend (who is also my good friend for a long
time) was doing. Soon, he started saying many
wonderful things about the
ex-girlfriend and how much he misses her, and wanted her back. Immediately, I
was reminded of Tyler Perry’s movie I saw some two years ago, Why Did I Get
Married? So I decided to give my friend the plot. It was about married couples
who had “issues” with their spouses – If she’s not overworked, she’s over the
top or overweight or overly perfect, and their men were far from perfect too.
Eventually, they all worked out their relationships except Mike, the egoistic
husband of Shelia (the overweight lady), who dumps her for her “great-figured”
friend, Trina, just to realize, “… she don’t clean, don’t cook, don’t take the
garbage out….” Mike loses to The 80/20 Rule, which (in this case) states that
most men get 80% of what they need from a marriage yet they tend to go after
the 20% that someone outside can provide for them because it appears to be more
to them when it really isn’t. Mike focuses on the 20% in Trina and loses the
80% in Shelia; who eventually “worked out” with Troy (new husband) and becomes
amazingly sexy. Ex-husband Mike, although still with Trina, is very jealous of
Shelia’s new-found bliss and tries to weasel his way back into her good graces,
but she tells him to go enjoy his “20”, referring to The 80/20 Rule. After
thinking about his 80/20, last Friday my friend came around and said excitedly,
“Hey buddy, I have decided to stay with my 80!” “Good for you”, I responded.
The 80/20 Rule does not only apply to relationships, it applies to many things
in different ways. It is true that, “Not all that glitters is gold”. We should
be careful not to end up like Mike. The fact that what we have isn’t perfect
doesn’t mean it isn’t good, or can’t be better. Besides, a known devil is
better than an unknown angel. Most times, that which we are attracted to, isn’t
as good as it appears. Learn how to use The 80/20 Rule to your advantage by
appreciating your 80 and improving on your 20, instead of losing the 80 to the
20! Originally, the Pareto Principle (The 80/20 Rule) referred to the
observation that 80% of Italy’s wealth belonged to only 20% of the population.
More generally, the Pareto Principle is the observation (not law) that most
things in life are not distributed evenly. Don’t get caught up on the numbers.
Both 80 and 20 are just examples of one type of uneven balances, so don’t use a
literal, mathematical interpretation of the rule. The numbers here aren’t that
important. The actual applications are less mathematical. How to Really Use the
80/20 Rule to your Advantage Pick an area of your life where you feel there is
an imbalance of effects. This won’t apply all areas, but many situations are
out of equilibrium (time, health, money and possibly even relationships).
Identify the key 10, 20 or 40 percent of inputs that are creating most your
results. It can be 10% of the time that creates greater efficiency. It could be
the 40% of relationships that create the most happiness for you. Find ways to
emphasize the key percentage. Spend more time on these activities. Place them
first in your schedule. Meet with key friends more often. Invest more money
with the best price. Find ways to downplay or eliminate the rest. Get rid of
activities that don’t have a high return. Stop spending time in relationships
that don’t create enough value. Stop wasting money on investments that can’t
give you a better quality of life.... Source: more.ng/lifestyle/the-80-20-rule | Visit http://more.ng/ for more
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